B\u0130SM\u0130LLAH\u0130RRAHMAN\u0130RRAH\u0130M<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Yerleri g\u00f6kleri ve ikisi aras\u0131ndakileri yoktan var edip aralar\u0131na nizam koyan, insanlar\u0131n do\u011fru yolu bulmalar\u0131 i\u00e7in peygamberler ve kitap g\u00f6nderen, bizlere say\u0131lmayacak kadar nimet ve g\u00f6z ayd\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 evlat bah\u015feden tek \u0130lah tek Rab olan Allah azze ve celle\u2019ye sonsuz hamd olsun.<\/p>\n Salat ve selam alemlere rahmet olarak g\u00f6nderilen do\u011fru yol rehberi kendisine tabi olup izinden gidilmedi\u011fi takdirde kurtulu\u015fun m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 son Nebi, Hz. Muhammed (sav)\u2019e ehli beytine ashab\u0131na ve t\u00fcm M\u00fc\u2019minlerin \u00fczerine olsun in\u015faAllah.<\/p>\n \u0130slam dini insan hayat\u0131nda bo\u015fluk b\u0131rakmayan her konuda insanlara yol g\u00f6steren \u0130lahi bir dindir. \u00c7ocuk e\u011fitimi ve terbiyesi konusunda da bize \u0131\u015f\u0131k tutacak \u0130slam\u2019\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131k \u00f6\u011fretileri mevcuttur. Allah Teala hi\u00e7bir \u015fekilde insan\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131bo\u015f b\u0131rakmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u201c\u0130nsan kendisinin ba\u015f\u0131bo\u015f b\u0131rak\u0131laca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 m\u0131 san\u0131yor.\u201d(K\u0131yamet Suresi 36.Ayet)<\/strong><\/p>\n \u0130nsano\u011flu kendini ba\u015f\u0131bo\u015f g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc s\u00fcrece ve meselelerini \u0130slam\u2019a g\u00f6re d\u00fczenlemedi\u011fi ve yular\u0131 olmayan deve misali her konuda kendi istedi\u011fi y\u00f6nde hareket etti\u011fi s\u00fcrece bat\u0131la yuvarlanmas\u0131 ve sonu\u00e7 olarak h\u00fcsrana d\u00fc\u015fmesi ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmazd\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk e\u011fitiminde \u0130slam\u2019\u0131n bu konuda \u00e7izdi\u011fi yol takip edilmez ise neslin \u0131slah\u0131 g\u00fcvenli\u011fi ve mutlulu\u011fu s\u00f6z konusu olamayacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n Bug\u00fcn say\u0131s\u0131z Kur\u2019an kurslar\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcniversitelerin okullar\u0131n mevcut olup buna ra\u011fmen neslin bozuk olmas\u0131 ahlaks\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ve anar\u015finin had safhada olmas\u0131 bunun en a\u00e7\u0131k delilidir.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z y\u00fck de\u011fil emanettir demi\u015ftik. Emaneti korumak zayi etmemek i\u00e7in Kur\u2019an ve S\u00fcnnetin ortaya koydu\u011fu y\u00f6ntem takip edilmelidir. E\u011fer ki aile i\u00e7inde ve e\u011fitim m\u00fcesseselerinde bu y\u00f6ntem takip edilmedik\u00e7e emaneti koruyabilmekte pek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmayacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocuk ergenlik \u00e7a\u011f\u0131na kadar ana babas\u0131n\u0131n kanad\u0131 alt\u0131ndad\u0131r. Ana babas\u0131 onu iyi bir in\u015fan, salih bir ki\u015fi yapabilmek ahlak\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fczelle\u015ftirmek i\u00e7in ne kadar yol ve vas\u0131ta varsa y\u00f6nelmelidir. Ta ki \u00e7ocuk \u0130slam ahlak\u0131 \u00fczere olgunla\u015f\u0131p yeti\u015fsin.<\/p>\n Her \u015feyden \u00f6nce dikkat edilmesi gereken bir husus var ki oda ya\u015fanmayan ya\u015fat\u0131lamaz ger\u00e7e\u011fidir. \u00c7ocuklar bizim s\u00f6ylediklerimiz de\u011fil bizim yapt\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yaparlar. Kendimizin yapmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir\u015feyi \u00e7ocuktan yapmas\u0131n\u0131 istemek hem do\u011fru bir davran\u0131\u015f de\u011fil hem de bir etkisi olmayacakt\u0131r. Buna dikkat edilmesi gerekir. Bununla alakal\u0131 \u015f\u00f6yle bir rivayet var; \u00dcnl\u00fc Edip Cahiz Akabe b. Ebi S\u00fcfyan\u2019dan rivayet ediyor teslim etti\u011finde ona \u015f\u00f6yle tavsiyede bulundu;<\/p>\n \u201c\u00c7ocu\u011fumu \u0131slah\u2019a ba\u015flarken ilk \u00f6nce kendini \u0131slah et kendini \u00f6rnek duruma getir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n g\u00f6zleri senin g\u00f6zlerine ba\u011fl\u0131 say\u0131l\u0131r. Onlara g\u00f6re \u00e7irkin ve k\u00f6t\u00fc senin \u00e7irkin ve fena kabul etti\u011fin \u015feylerdir.\u201d<\/p>\n B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlardan sonra \u00e7ocuk e\u011fitimi ve terbiyesinde takip edilmesi gerek ba\u015fl\u0131ca temel kaideler nelerdir diye bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u015funlar \u00e7\u0131kmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n \u201c\u00c7ocukalr\u0131n\u0131za ilk s\u00f6z olarak La \u0130lahe \u0130llallah(Allah\u2019tan ba\u015fka \u0130lah yoktur.) s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6\u011fretin\u201d(El-Hakim ibn Abbas\u2019tan)<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c7ocuk anas\u0131ndan do\u011funca mutlaka tevhid (Allah\u2019\u0131 birleme O\u2019na iman) \u00fczere tertemiz do\u011far. Anne babalarda \u00e7ocu\u011fa bu y\u00f6nde gereken e\u011fitimi verir ise \u015f\u00fcphesiz ki \u00e7ocuk k\u00f6kl\u00fc bir iman \u00fczere yeti\u015fir.<\/p>\n \u201cHer \u00e7ocuk f\u0131trat (Allah\u2019a iman ve dini duygu) <\/strong>\u00fczere do\u011far sonra ana babas\u0131 onu ya yahudile\u015ftiri ya hristiyanla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r ya da mecusile\u015ftirir.<\/p>\n Do\u011fan her \u00e7ocuk zaten \u0130slam f\u0131trat\u0131 ile do\u011fuyor. Anne babaya d\u00fc\u015fen ise o f\u0131trat\u0131n \u00fczeri bat\u0131l ile kapanmadan f\u0131tratta bulunan tevhidi g\u00fcn y\u00fcz\u00fcne \u00e7\u0131karmakt\u0131r. Sahabeler bu konuda titiz davranm\u0131\u015f ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na \u00f6\u011frettikleri ilk s\u00f6z \u015fu olmu\u015ftur. \u201cAment\u00fc billahi ve kefertu bit ta\u011fut\u201d(Allah\u2019a iman ettim ve ta\u011futu reddettim)<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201c\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131za \u0130lahi buyruklara uymalar\u0131n\u0131 yasaklar\u0131ndan ka\u00e7\u0131nmay\u0131 emrediniz. Bu hem onlar\u0131 hem sizi cehennem ate\u015finden korumaya y\u00f6neliktir.\u201d(\u0130bn Cerir \u2013 \u0130bn Munzir \u0130bn Abbas\u2019tan)<\/strong><\/p>\n B\u00f6ylece \u00e7ocuk akletmeye ba\u015flay\u0131nca helal ve haram\u0131n h\u00fck\u00fcmlerini anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015fta \u0130slam \u015feriat\u0131 h\u00fck\u00fcmlerine ba\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 takdirde art\u0131k ondan sonra \u0130slam\u2019dan ba\u015fka ger\u00e7ek anlamda yol g\u00f6steren h\u00fck\u00fcmler, ondan ba\u015fka do\u011fruya g\u00f6t\u00fcren yollar tan\u0131maz olur.<\/p>\n Anne babalar \u00e7ocu\u011fa helali haram\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretme de maalesef ge\u00e7 kalmaktalar.. o daha \u00e7ocuk, hele biraz b\u00fcy\u00fcs\u00fcn, o \u015fimdi bunu anlamaz, hele bir okulu bitsin sonra kursa g\u00f6ndeririz \u00f6\u011frenir derken \u00e7ocuk Rabbini tan\u0131mayan O\u2019nun helal ve haram\u0131n\u0131 bilmeyen bir \u015fey olarak b\u00fcy\u00fcyor. Sonra ise o \u00e7ocu\u011fa bir\u015feyler vermek imkans\u0131z ya da \u00e7ok g\u00fc\u00e7 hale geliyor. Halk aras\u0131nda \u015f\u00f6yle bir s\u00f6z vard\u0131r; \u201cA\u011fa\u00e7 ya\u015f iken e\u011filir.\u201d Evet bir a\u011fac\u0131 olgun iken e\u011fmek nas\u0131l m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011filse nefsini tan\u0131maya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015f bir \u00e7ocu\u011fu da e\u011fitmek \u00f6ylece zordur.<\/p>\n Bug\u00fcn \u00f6yle bir hale gelmi\u015fiz ki ba\u015f\u0131 kapal\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir k\u0131z \u00e7acu\u011fu g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fczde ne hale getirmi\u015fsin b\u00f6yle o daha k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck v.s. diye tepki veriyoruz. Ama bir yavruyu minicik eteklerle g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fczde bir tepki vermiyoruz. Biri yobazl\u0131k de\u011feri \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck oluyor.!! Zaten bug\u00fcn bu neslin bozulmas\u0131n\u0131n sebeplerinden biride ben yapamad\u0131m k\u0131z\u0131m yaps\u0131n diyen anneler, o erkektir yapar diyen babalard\u0131r.<\/p>\n \u201c\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131za yedi ya\u015f\u0131na girdiklerinde namaz ile emredin on ya\u015f\u0131na girdiklerinde (namaz k\u0131lmad\u0131klar\u0131 takdirde) bu y\u00fczden(kaba etine vurarak hafif\u00e7e) d\u00f6v\u00fcn. Yataklar\u0131n\u0131 da ay\u0131r\u0131n.\u201d(Ebu Davud\u00a0 ibn Amr b. As\u2019da)<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201c\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131za \u0130lahi emirlere uyup amel etmelerini \u0130lahi yasaklardan ka\u00e7\u0131nmalar\u0131n\u0131 emredin. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc b\u00f6yle emredip (onlar\u0131 \u0130lahi buyruklara sayg\u0131l\u0131 k\u0131lman\u0131z) onlar\u0131 ate\u015ften korur.\u201d(\u0130bn Cerir)<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c7ocuk bulu\u011f \u00e7a\u011f\u0131na gelmeden \u00f6nce Allah\u2019\u0131n farz k\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131 emrettikleri h\u00fck\u00fcmleri \u00f6\u011fretmek bu konuda gerekli bilgiyi ona vermek bulu\u011fa erdikten sonra ise bu \u00f6\u011fretilenleri uygulamas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamak gerekir.<\/p>\n Hatta k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckken ibadetlere al\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmak gerekir. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck hediyelerle onlar\u0131 ibadete te\u015fvik etmek, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131nda olaca\u011f\u0131 Allah(cc) kat\u0131ndaki m\u00fckafat\u0131 anlatmak \u00e7ocu\u011fun ibadete d\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc art\u0131rmada etkili olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n Bu konuda \u00e7ocu\u011fa e\u011fitim verirken onun kalbine Allah(cc) sevgisi ve Allah korkusunu a\u015f\u0131lamak do\u011fru oland\u0131r.<\/p>\n \u201c\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7 iyi hal \u00fczere edeblendirip e\u011fitin. Peygamberinizi sevmek O\u2019nun aile halk\u0131n\u0131 sevmek ve Kur\u2019an okumak. \u201d(Taberani)<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cSizden biriniz ben kendisine mal\u0131ndan \u00e7ocu\u011fundan ve b\u00fct\u00fcn insanlarda daha sevimli olmad\u0131k\u00e7a iman etmi\u015f say\u0131lmaz.\u201d(Buhari-M\u00fcslim)<\/strong><\/p>\n \u0130manla do\u011frudan alakal\u0131 olan Rasul\u00fc sevmek tohumunu \u00e7ocu\u011fun kalbine daha k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck iken ekmelisin ki \u00e7ocuk b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fck\u00e7e kalbindeki peygamber sevgisi de b\u00fcy\u00fcs\u00fcn. Yine \u00e7ocu\u011fa sevdirilecek bir \u015feyde Kur\u2019an\u2019\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretmek ve sevdirmektir. Zira Kur\u2019an okumak dinin temel esaslar\u0131ndan biridir. Ve inanc\u0131 iyice peki\u015ftirip yerle\u015ftirir k\u00f6k salmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flar.<\/p>\n \u201c\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131za ikramda bulunun ve onlar\u0131n edebini g\u00fczelle\u015ftirin.\u201d(\u0130bni Mace)<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u201c\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131za ve aile halk\u0131n\u0131za hay\u0131r \u00f6\u011fretin ve onlar\u0131 edepli yeti\u015ftirin.\u201d(Beyhaki)<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u201cHi\u00e7bir baba \u00e7ocu\u011funa g\u00fczel ahlaktan daha \u00fcst\u00fcn bir hediye veremez \u201d(Tirmizi)<\/strong><\/p>\n Anne babalar \u00e7ocu\u011fu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015fta do\u011fruluk, emanet, istikamet, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 nefsine tercih etme, ihtiya\u00e7 sahibi kimselerin yard\u0131m\u0131na ko\u015fmak, b\u00fcy\u00fcklere sayg\u0131 misafire ikram, kom\u015fuya iyilik, di\u011fer insanlara sevgi misafire ikram, kom\u015fuya iyilik, di\u011fer insanlara sevgi ahlak\u0131 \u00fczere e\u011fitip yeti\u015ftirmek hususunda g\u00f6revli ve sorumludurlar.<\/p>\n Yine \u00e7ocu\u011fun dilini k\u00f6t\u00fc s\u00f6zlerden, ba\u015fkas\u0131na dil uzatmaktan uzakla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p ahlak\u0131 bozacak k\u00f6t\u00fc terbiye do\u011furacak her t\u00fcrl\u00fc s\u00f6z ve davran\u0131\u015ftan sak\u0131nmakta g\u00f6revli ve sorumludurlar.<\/p>\n D\u00f6rt \u015fey daha var ki ana babalar\u0131n titizlikle \u00fczerinde durmas\u0131, bunlar\u0131n \u00e7ok k\u00f6t\u00fc ameller ve huylar oldu\u011funu anlatmalar\u0131 gerekir. Bu d\u00f6rt \u015fey;<\/p>\n Buraya kadar yazm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fumuz esaslar ile \u00e7ocuk e\u011fitilir ise imanl\u0131 ve salih bir neslin olu\u015fmas\u0131 s\u00f6z konusu olabilir.<\/p>\n Bu d\u00f6rt \u015feyin a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131n\u0131 ve son 6 maddeyi \u0130n\u015faAllah bir sonraki yaz\u0131m\u0131zda izah etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131z\u2026<\/p>\n Ba\u015far\u0131 ancak Allah Azze ve Celle\u2019dendir.<\/p>\n ELHAMDUL\u0130LLAH\u0130RABB\u0130LALEM\u0130N<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" B\u0130SM\u0130LLAH\u0130RRAHMAN\u0130RRAH\u0130M Yerleri g\u00f6kleri ve ikisi aras\u0131ndakileri yoktan var edip aralar\u0131na nizam koyan, insanlar\u0131n do\u011fru yolu bulmalar\u0131 i\u00e7in peygamberler ve kitap g\u00f6nderen, bizlere say\u0131lmayacak kadar nimet ve g\u00f6z ayd\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 evlat bah\u015feden tek \u0130lah tek Rab olan Allah azze ve celle\u2019ye sonsuz hamd olsun. Salat ve selam alemlere rahmet olarak g\u00f6nderilen do\u011fru yol rehberi kendisine tabi […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":5422,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[251],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n\n
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