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Salat ve selam t\u00fcm peygamberlerin ve onlar\u0131 takip eden tabilerinin \u00fczerine olsun.228- Bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f kad\u0131nlar \u00fc\u00e7 ayba\u015f\u0131 boyunca kendilerini g\u00f6zlem alt\u0131nda tutarlar. E\u011fer Allah'a ve Ahiret g\u00fcn\u00fcne inanm\u0131\u015flar ise Allah'\u0131n rahimlerinde yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011fu saklamalar\u0131 kendilerine hel\u00e2l de\u011fildir.E\u011fer kocalar\u0131 bar\u0131\u015fmak isterse bu d\u00f6nemde kar\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 geri almakta \u00f6ncelik hakk\u0131na sahiptirler. Bu durumdaki kad\u0131nlar\u0131n g\u00f6revleri oldu\u011fu oranda me\u015fru haklar\u0131 da vard\u0131r. Yaln\u0131z bu d\u00f6nemde erkeklerin hakk\u0131 daha \u00f6nceliklidir. Hi\u00e7 \u015f\u00fcphesiz Allah'\u0131n g\u00fcc\u00fc \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u00fcr ve O hikmet sahibidir.BO\u015eANMIS KADINLAR; HAK VE SORUMLULUKLARI\u015eimdi s\u0131ra bo\u015fama konusuna geliyor. \u0130ncelemekte oldu\u011fumuz ayetlerin bundan sonraki b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnde bo\u015famaya ve bo\u015faman\u0131n sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 olarak kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kan bekleme s\u00fcresi (iddet), fidye, nafaka ve bo\u015fama yard\u0131m\u0131 (mu'ta) gibi konulara ili\u015fkin h\u00fck\u00fcmler ayr\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 \u015fekilde anlat\u0131l\u0131yor. Ayet \u00f6nce bekleme s\u00fcresi ve erke\u011fin kar\u0131s\u0131na tekrar d\u00f6nmesi, meseleleri ile s\u00f6ze giriyor:\"Bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f kad\u0131nlar \u00fc\u00e7 ayba\u015f\u0131 boyunca kendilerini g\u00f6zlem alt\u0131nda tutarlar.\"Yani \"\u00fc\u00e7 ayba\u015f\u0131 kanamas\u0131n\u0131n sonuna kadar ya da \u00fc\u00e7 ayba\u015f\u0131 kanamas\u0131n\u0131 izleyecek kanamas\u0131z d\u00f6nemlerin sonuna kadar...\" Bu nokta tart\u0131\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r. \"Kendilerini g\u00f6zlem alt\u0131nda tutarlar..\" \u0130nce bir psikolojik durumu tasvir eden bu espri dolu ifade kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda hayranl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 gizleyemedim. Bu c\u00fcmlenin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcrmek istedi\u011fi yal\u0131n anlam \"Bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f kad\u0131nlar yeni bir evlili\u011fe giri\u015fmeden \u00f6nce \u00fc\u00e7 ayba\u015f\u0131 s\u00fcresi ge\u00e7inceye ya da bu ayba\u015flar\u0131 kanamalar\u0131 kesilinceye kadar beklerler\" \u015feklindedir. Fakat Kur'an-\u0131 Kerim'in bu ifade tarz\u0131, bu yal\u0131n anlam\u0131n \u00fczerine ba\u015fka duygular\u0131n ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerin g\u00f6lgelerini yans\u0131t\u0131yor. Bu ifade tarz\u0131 yal\u0131n anlam\u0131 yan\u0131nda, bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f kad\u0131nlar\u0131n yeni bir evlilik hayat\u0131 kurmaya y\u00f6nelik arzusunun; g\u00f6zetim alt\u0131nda tutmaya, arzular\u0131n\u0131 kontrol alt\u0131na almaya, \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131 nefislerinin, bu g\u00f6zlem alt\u0131nda tutma s\u00fcresi boyunca sab\u0131rs\u0131zl\u0131k ve acelecilik kar\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131 arzular\u0131n\u0131 da yans\u0131t\u0131yor. Bu da do\u011fal bir durumdur. Bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f kad\u0131n\u0131 bu sab\u0131rs\u0131z bekleyi\u015fe iten fakt\u00f6r kendini kan\u0131tlama arzusudur. Bu kad\u0131n sona eren evlilik hayat\u0131ndaki ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n kendi eksikli\u011finden, kendi yetersizli\u011finden kaynaklanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, bundan dolay\u0131 ba\u015fka bir koca bulup yeni bir hayat kurabilece\u011fini, kendisine ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131na ispatlamak istiyor. Bu s\u00fcr\u00fckleyici duygu, do\u011fal olarak, erkekte bulunmaz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bo\u015fayan odur. Oysa kad\u0131n ruhunda g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir eziklik duygusuna sahiptir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc O, bo\u015fanan, bo\u015fama karar\u0131na muhatap olan taraft\u0131r. \u0130\u015fte Kur'an-\u0131 Kerim'in bu c\u00fcmlesi, vurgulad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bu ifade tarz\u0131 ile bu psikolojik durumu tasvir ediyor. Ayn\u0131 zamanda onu g\u00f6z\u00f6n\u00fcne al\u0131yor, h\u00fck\u00fcmlerini etkileyen bir fakt\u00f6r olarak hesap ediyor.Bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f kad\u0131nlar, yeni bir evlilik hayat\u0131na giri\u015fmeden \u00f6nce, rahimlerinin, sona eren evliliklerinin izlerinden ayr\u0131 oldu\u011funu kesinli\u011fe kavu\u015fturmak i\u00e7in bu s\u00fcreyi kendilerini g\u00f6zetim alt\u0131nda tutarak ge\u00e7irirler.\"E\u011fer Allah'a ve Ahiret g\u00fcn\u00fcne inan\u0131yorlarsa Allah'\u0131n rahimlerinde yaratm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu (\u00e7ocu\u011fu) saklamalar\u0131 kendilerine hel\u00e2l de\u011fildir.\"Yani \"Bu kad\u0131nlara, Allah'\u0131n rahimlerinde yaratm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu \u00e7ocu\u011fu ya da ayba\u015f\u0131 kanamas\u0131n\u0131 saklamalar\u0131 hel\u00e2l de\u011fildir.\" Burada rahimlerindeki varl\u0131klar\u0131 yaratan y\u00fcce Allah'\u0131n ad\u0131 an\u0131larak bu kad\u0131nlar\u0131n kalpleri uyar\u0131l\u0131yor, bunun yan\u0131s\u0131ra Allah'a ve Ahiret g\u00fcn\u00fcne ili\u015fkin iman bilin\u00e7leri harekete ge\u00e7iriliyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc y\u00fcce Allah'\u0131n rahimlerinde yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011fu ya da ayba\u015f\u0131 kanamas\u0131n\u0131 gizlememeleri, bu iman\u0131n \u015fart\u0131 olarak g\u00f6steriliyor. Burada \u00f6zellikle Ahiret g\u00fcn\u00fcnden s\u00f6zedilmesinin a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131kl\u0131 bir anlam\u0131 vard\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc yap\u0131lanlar\u0131n hesab\u0131 orada g\u00f6r\u00fclecektir. Bu g\u00f6zlem alt\u0131nda kalma s\u00fcresi y\u00fcz\u00fcnden ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131labilecek k\u0131smetlerin kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 orada verilecek ve e\u011fer rahimlerinde Allah'\u0131n yaratt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 sakl\u0131 tutmu\u015flarsa bunun cezas\u0131na orada \u00e7arp\u0131lacaklard\u0131r. E\u011fer b\u00f6yle bir sakl\u0131 tutmaya giri\u015filmi\u015fse Allah bunu bilir, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc rahimdeki canl\u0131 yavrusunu yaratan O' dur. Bu i\u015fin hi\u00e7bir y\u00f6n\u00fc O' na gizli kalmaz. Buna g\u00f6re bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f kad\u0131n\u0131n herhangi bir d\u0131\u015f etkinin, herhangi bir arzunun, herhangi bir keyf\u00ee iste\u011fin, duygular!na yans\u0131yan herhangi bir amac\u0131n bask\u0131s\u0131 alt\u0131nda kalarak rahminin durumunu y\u00fcce Allah'tan saklamaya kalk\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 do\u011fru de\u011fildir.Bu, meselenin bir y\u00f6n\u00fc. Di\u011fer yandan e\u015flerin, birbirinden ayr\u0131ld\u0131ktan sonraki duygular\u0131n\u0131 deneyden ge\u00e7irebilecekleri makul bir bekleme d\u00f6nemine ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 vard\u0131r. Belki de kalplerinde yeniden tazelenebilecek bir sevgi izi, uyar\u0131labilecek duygu kal\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131; hiddetin, kabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n ve kendini be\u011fenmi\u015fli\u011fin etkisiz hale getirdi\u011fi yak\u0131nla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 fakt\u00f6rler vard\u0131r da \u00f6fkeler dinince, kaba duygular durulunca ve vicdanlar rahatlay\u0131nca ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011fa yola\u00e7an sebepler k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck g\u00f6r\u00fclmeye ba\u015flan\u0131r. Belki de ba\u015fka geli\u015fmeler, yeni bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131lar\u0131 ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar da \u00f6zlem duygusu taraflar\u0131 eski hayatlar\u0131na d\u00f6nd\u00fcr\u00fcr ya da sorumluluk duygusu onlar\u0131 dini bir gereklili\u011fe uymaya s\u00fcr\u00fckler. Bo\u015fama, Allah kat\u0131nda hel\u00e2llerin en sevimsizidir. Bu, ancak b\u00fct\u00fcn \u00e7arelerden umut kesilince ba\u015fvurulabilecek olan istenmeyen bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm yoludur.Kur'an-\u0131 Kerim'in \u00e7e\u015fitli yerlerinde karar\u0131 verilmeden \u00f6nce ba\u015fvurulmas\u0131 gereken \u00e7areler anlat\u0131l\u0131r. Ayr\u0131ca bo\u015fama karar\u0131, ayba\u015f\u0131 kanamalar\u0131n\u0131n kesildi\u011fi bir anda ve cinsel ili\u015fkiye girilmeden verilmelidir. Bu durum \u00e7o\u011funlukla bo\u015fama karar\u0131n\u0131n verilece\u011fi an ile uygulamaya ba\u015flanmas\u0131 aras\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme f\u0131rsat\u0131 kazan\u0131lacak bir s\u00fcre do\u011furur. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc erkek, kar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n temizlik d\u00f6neminin gelmesini, kanamas\u0131n\u0131n kesilmesini bekleyecek, sonra onu bo\u015fayacak. Buna benzer daha bir\u00e7ok \u00f6nlemler, bo\u015fama uygulamas\u0131ndan \u00f6nce gerekli giri\u015fimler vard\u0131r.\u0130lk talak, bo\u015faman\u0131n birinci evresi, e\u015flerin ger\u00e7ek duygular\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmelerine f\u0131rsat veren bir tecr\u00fcbedir. Kar\u0131-koca bu ilk evrenin bekleme d\u00f6neminde birlikte ya\u015fayabileceklerinin fark\u0131na var\u0131rlarsa \u00f6nlerindeki yol a\u00e7\u0131kt\u0131r.\"E\u011fer kocalar\u0131 bar\u0131\u015fmak ve dirlik isterse bu d\u00f6nemde kar\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 geri almakta \u00f6ncelik hakk\u0131na sahiptirler.\"Bu s\u0131rada, yani bu bekleme ve g\u00f6zetleme d\u00f6neminde -ki bu d\u00f6nem \"iddet\" ad\u0131 ile an\u0131l\u0131r- e\u011fer erkeklerin bu geri almaktaki ama\u00e7lar\u0131 yeniden sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir aile yuvas\u0131 kurmaksa, maksatlar\u0131 kad\u0131n\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131ya sokmak; ya \u00f6c almak i\u00e7in ya gurur g\u00f6sterisi olarak ya da ba\u015fka biri ile evlenmesini onur k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 sayd\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in onu dikenli bir hayat\u0131n duvarlar\u0131 aras\u0131na tekrar kapatabilmek de\u011filse.\"Bu durumdaki kad\u0131nlar\u0131n g\u00f6revleri oldu\u011fu oranda me\u015fru haklar\u0131 da vard\u0131r.\" Bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f kad\u0131nlar\u0131n bu durumda g\u00f6revleri oran\u0131nda haklar\u0131 da vard\u0131r. Mesel\u00e2 bu kad\u0131nlar belirli bir bekleme d\u00f6nemi ge\u00e7irmekle ve rahimlerindeki \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 saklamamakla y\u00fck\u00fcml\u00fcd\u00fcrler. Kocalar\u0131 da, e\u015flerine geri d\u00f6nd\u00fckleri takdirde iyi niyetli olmakla, onlara zarar verme amac\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131mamakla y\u00fck\u00fcml\u00fcd\u00fcrler. Ayr\u0131ca az ilerde anlat\u0131laca\u011f\u0131 gibi bekleme d\u00f6nemi boyunca e\u015flerinin nafakas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamakla g\u00f6revlidirler.\"Yaln\u0131z bu d\u00f6nemde erkeklerin hakk\u0131 daha \u00f6nceliklidir.\"\u00d6yle san\u0131yorum ki, burada s\u00f6zkonusu olan erkek \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc sadece bekleme s\u00fcresi i\u00e7inde kar\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 geri alma imtiyaz\u0131 ile s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131d\u0131r. Bu hak erke\u011fe tan\u0131nd\u0131, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bo\u015fayan odur. Bo\u015fayan taraf erkek oldu\u011fu halde geri d\u00f6nme hakk\u0131n\u0131n kad\u0131na tan\u0131nmas\u0131, kad\u0131n\u0131n adam\u0131n aya\u011f\u0131na giderek tekrar erke\u011finin nik\u00e2h\u0131 alt\u0131na girmeyi istemesi mant\u0131kla ba\u011fda\u015fmaz. Demek ki bu, durumun \u00f6zelli\u011finden do\u011fan bir hakt\u0131r. Burada s\u00f6zkonusu olan \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck, bu durumla s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 bir \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fckt\u00fcr, yoksa \u00e7oklar\u0131n\u0131n anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve ba\u015fka durumlar i\u00e7in de delil olarak kulland\u0131klar\u0131 gibi mutlak anlaml\u0131 de\u011fildir\" Ayetin sonunda yine uyar\u0131 c\u00fcmlesi geliyor:\"Hi\u00e7 \u015f\u00fcphesiz Allah g\u00fcc\u00fc \u00fcst\u00fcn oland\u0131r ve hikmet sahibidir.\"Bu uyar\u0131 c\u00fcmlesi, bu h\u00fck\u00fcmleri farz k\u0131lan Allah'\u0131n g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc oldu\u011funu ve bu farz k\u0131lman\u0131n hikmete dayal\u0131 oldu\u011funu vurguluyor. Bu uyar\u0131da kalpleri, \u00e7e\u015fitli etkilerin ve \u015fartlar\u0131n bask\u0131s\u0131 alt\u0131nda sap\u0131kl\u0131\u011fa ve e\u011frili\u011fe y\u00f6nelmekten al\u0131koyan bir mesaj vard\u0131r.Daha sonraki ayette yeralan h\u00fck\u00fcm; tal\u00e2klar\u0131n, yani bo\u015fama evrelerinin say\u0131s\u0131na, bo\u015fanan kad\u0131n\u0131n nikah s\u00f6zle\u015fmesinde belirlenen mehrin sahibi olmaya hakk\u0131 oldu\u011funa, bo\u015fan\u0131rken bundan hi\u00e7bir \u015feyin geri al\u0131namayaca\u011f\u0131na ili\u015fkin-dir. Bu son h\u00fckm\u00fcn bir tek istisnas\u0131 vard\u0131r ki, o da \u015fudur: E\u011fer bir kad\u0131n istemedi\u011fi bir evlili\u011fi s\u00fcrd\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc taktirde g\u00fcnaha girece\u011finden \u00e7ekinirse kocas\u0131na verece\u011fi fidye kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131nda h\u00fcrriyetini sat\u0131n alabilir ki buna \"Hal\" durumu denir."}